My God (Allah, Krishna, Thor, Science) I love girls. In all the life forms that exist on the Earth, women are by far the best. Say what you want about them, but us men, we love them! It is through this boundless, senseless love affair that I have with the fairer species, that here, right now, I find myself writing this article, but why? The simple answer is because I’m troubled. Not by a great many things that you would expect from a writer, philosopher or tortured poet, nor from the complications of the female and male dynamic, that confuses feelings and emotions with logic and reason, causing heartache and misunderstanding. My confusion is much more shallow, however in this post I will hopefully and successfully justify why this troubling is in fact, coming from a deep rooted, and thoroughly thoughtful place. My problem is of course, sex.
Sex without love is a meaningless experience, but as far as meaningless experiences go its pretty damn good.
Don’t get me wrong, I have no problems with sex, or for the act of doing it. In fact literately by default being a hot blooded male, I love it, of course I do, what is there not too love? However I wish women felt the same way! They all claim to enjoy sex, and embrace it, nevertheless I feel that for a woman, things are very different. Girls have always had a problem with men and how men feel about sex. The fact is, if a man is single and good-looking chances are he’s had a lot of sex. But this sex always comes at a price, regardless of what women may think. Sure, among other male peers, they herald a fellow chap that has managed to bed the girl that works in the coffee shop, with the big boobs. The problem is how did that man get to do it? Most men by default, find themselves manipulating women into bed. I and my friends, have done this, and rather shamefully, continue to do this, on countless occasions. Simply by giving the impression that we want more from that girl in order to get her to, drop her knickers. We cant help it, why? Because we approach sex in a very different way to women.
There is more to sex appeal than just measurements. I don’t need a bedroom to prove my womanliness. I can convey just as much sex appeal, picking apples off a tree or standing in the rain.
Men have a great many attributes that can be appreciated by other men, however being sexy or acting sexy can only be enjoyed by the ladies, or the homosexuals (or the closet new age metrosexuals)
. Women love to look sexy for other women, and themselves. They embrace this one area of sex, that most men don’t even know exists. Is it harder for a man to be sexy? I certainly think that it is, as women tend to like different men; some girls love smart well dressed types, others prefer the skinhead muscle bound mechanic, covered head to toe in motor oil and various tribal tattoos (which could say a lot about the calibre of the female).
Being and acting sexy for a woman, is easy, all she has to do is look at you a certain way, wear those shoes, that dress, them hold-ups and boom, she is holding court with every man and fellow lady in the room (god bless her)
! The power that a woman gets from her sex appeal must be rather overwhelming, no wonder they love shoes so much! It is this power that makes me wonder; perhaps this is the reason that they hold back from frivolous sex?
I must apologise because I know all writers have memories of being on the outer because it’s the children on the side of the playground who become the dangerous writers.
The playground is a mean and nasty place for girls growing up, more so than most men, and being labelled as a slag for a girl is horrid. Being labelled as a male slag or man whore, is a badge of pride for most men. I am convinced that this is perhaps one of the biggest factors as to why girls don’t treat sex as freely as men do. It’s a shame that women are not as free as they could be, some wouldn’t even say, that they are not sexually free, as almost all have it implanted in their minds, that being sexual, and giving in to have sex with men is wrong, bad, or in some cases, evil. Why is this? There is a story in Jewish Mythology about the female demon called Lilth.
Lilith, like Adam, had been created from the dust
of the earth. But as soon as she joined Adam they began to quarrel, each refusing to be subservient and submissive to the other. “I am your lord and master,”
spoke Adam, “and it is your duty to obey me.”
But Lilith replied: “We are both equal, for we are both issued from dust, and I will not be submissive to you.”
And thus they quarrelled and none would give in. Adam stood in prayer before the creator and said: ” O Lord of the Universe, the woman Thou hast given me has fled from me.”
It would appear that the Bible and other holy books plagued womankind to be an evil race, that they give us problems and fears. In Greek Mythology Pandora, the first woman again has given men “issues” to deal with. The very first woman who was formed out of clay by the gods. The Titan Prometheus had originally been assigned with the task of creating man. But because he was displeased with their lot, stole fire from heaven. Zeus was angered, and commanded Hephaistos and the other gods to create a woman, Pandora, and endow her with beauty and cunning. He then delivered her to Epimetheus, the foolish younger brother of Prometheus, for a bride. When he had received her into his house, Pandora opened the pithos (the famous box)
which Zeus had given her as a wedding present, and released the swarm of evil spirits trapped within. They would forever afterwards, plague mankind.
A man will treat a woman almost exactly the way he treats his own interior feminine. In fact, he hasn’t the ability to see a woman, objectively speaking, until he has made some kind of peace with his interior woman.
Men and women need to make a truce. For too long has the guilt of enjoying sex hung over women. They need to embrace it, be proud and enjoy it. I think that in time they will discover an aspect of themselves that will set them free from the male dominance, that plagues them. Nevertheless, a key that opens many locks is called a master key, a lock that can be opened by many keys is considered a bad lock.